Wedding Season

June is now here and with the Summer so begins the wedding season. I love weddings. It is beautiful celebrating a couple’s love and, of course, who doesn’t love a good party?

Not to be the Debby downer, but weddings also bring about the intense realization that I am still single. It is interesting that I don’t really feel rushed at any other time. I’ve just turned 28 and finally settling into my career, not just a job, and I’m happy. I have a great family, great friends, but then going to a wedding single is still upsetting, to a certain degree. I still have an amazing time and dance up a storm, but I think part of me does long for the day that it will be my turn. At least I hope someday it is in the cards for me.

Everyone always tells you that it will happen when you least expect it. When you aren’t looking – bam – it happens. Well, I’m not sure how much I believe that. I mean I guess if so many people say it that there must be some truth to it, but I also think that if you want to find someone that you have to put yourself out there. I can’t sit on a couch and expect that someone will just walk into me on the street. So, as awkward as it may often be, I’m still putting myself out there.

I don’t know if guys feel this way at all, but why is it that us girls tend to have that panic feeling almost around weddings as we get older? That fear that we will always be alone or whatever. I don’t know, but I do know that I definitely have realized that it does affect me emotionally. I struggle with emotional eating. Somewhere along the line I learned that food can be comforting or a coping mechanism, but it only brings temporary relief and afterwards I think makes you feel worse.

I’m a bridesmaid in my best friend’s wedding this month and I am beyond thrilled for her. She is an amazing person and I would do anything for her. She deserves all the happiness in the world. But, it is frustrating at times being the single friend as everyone seemingly moves on with their lives.

Oh well, I’m going to continue to focus on my health. Focus on continuing to build healthy habits and when the time is right, I’m sure I’ll get there someday. I can’t be the only one who has had bridesmaid blues before, right?

Comments

  1. I am right there with you girl!! I just began grad school/nursing school and there is a girl in my program who has already had multiple dates! It’s like guys are just throwing their numbers at her, me not so much! It’s annoying because why can’t guys just seem a tad bit interested in me! Geez. But I’m realizing that those guys end up being douches anyway, so I’d rather have no guy than someone who just wants to be a jerk. It’s all about perspective!
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  2. I’m kinda there with you lol I’m not single. I’ve been with my boyfriend almost 7 years and have 2 kids but we aren’t married. Everyone always asks when we are getting married. I swear almost every girl I went to school with is married now. I’m not in a hurry, I’d really like to get to my goal weight before I get married. But sometimes, deep down inside, I really want to get married and experience planning a wedding and just that whole experience.
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    • I’m sure that can be annoying when people are always asking when you will get married. It sounds like for you it isn’t an “if” but a “when.” Hey, hopefully we will both be at our goal weights by the time we tie the knot!

  3. Samantha says:

    My cousin is getting married, and although none of us can stand his future wife because she’s WAY TOO BUBBLY AND FAKE, I’m still looking forward to the wedding. I have an awesome, fun dress picked out that I can definitely wear once I finish school and start my career. I’m dressing it up with pearls and fancy nylons and cute shoes. I’m mostly looking forward to getting out there on the dance floor and rocking it out! I’m not even looking forward to the food to be honest with you. Just turn on that music and let this girl dance the night away! I am also going to the wedding single and I have no complaints. In fact, my plan is to NOT get married. I don’t want to and I certainly don’t want kids. I know exactly how I want my life to go and my career will always come first. If you watch Grey’s Anatomy, then you’ll understand that Christina Yang is sort of my role model.

  4. Aww Katie, I’m sorry. Just continue to make yourself the best person you can be, and if it is meant to be, IT WILL HAPPEN. Continue to live a full, joyous life, and enjoy being with you. It is also true that if one wants that too desperately/much, they do give off that aura, too. So just continue leading as full a life as possible, keep yourself busy, and try not to sweat it too much. I know that is sometimes easier to say than accomplish. Not discounting that, either.
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    • Thanks, Gwen! I agree with what you mean about if you want it too much. I don’t feel like I’m necessarily in that sort of stage, but I think lately I have been a little down. However, I’m just going to keep on keeping on. Work on myself and my health and if it is meant to be then it will be!

  5. I couldn’t agree more with this….I LOVE LOVE LOVE wedding season, but it also gives me anxiety! I have to try really hard to shake it off when I’m filling out my RSVP card for 1. I’ve been lucky to have always had other friends at weddings, but I totally see where you are coming from. I’ve been single for quite some time now and although I really haven’t pushed myself to meet the right guy, I’ve really focused on just trying do things that make me happy, in the hopes that some guy out there is also doing things that make him happy, and one day we’ll meet because we’re doing the things we love. It’s so hard during wedding season though. Just keep on keepin’ on and remember to put yourself first– do what makes you happy, and i truly believe the rest falls into place sooner or later.
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